It is time to talk about this topic with an attitude of charity and never judge, read on to find out why.
It is true, I have written several articles about pornography, but none have been dedicated to women who suffer from this particular addiction. I know the time has come to talk about it, because in my professional experience I see that there are too many women who are affected ( one in six women is addicted to pornography, according to the latest statistics) and, although there are many similarities with men, there are also many differences. So these words are dedicated to these women who suffer in silence and do not know what to do.
Although we know that pornography is not limited to men, for some reason we avoid talking about women, and when it comes to talking about them it is almost always considered that the problem is much worse than when it is presented in a man. So if pornography between men is kept secret, the conversation between women is almost nil. Therefore, below I present some information to help that this is no longer the case and that more is said about the matter.
The similarities are more than the differences
The consequences of viewing pornography are the same, whether you are a woman or a man. On the other hand, situations such as sadness, anger, brain changes, anguish, anxiety, sexual and relationship problems are the same triggers of this addiction. In fact, it is possible that since this dependence is more of a taboo among women, it is kept even more secret and that this captivity is increasing more and more.
There is more fear of being discovered
This secret implies much more fear, because for some reason the culture and the community see, to some extent, more acceptable for a man to have a sexual addiction than a woman — which it shouldn’t be. That is why one should seriously consider the following point.
There is less support
For all the reasons already listed, it is not surprising that women receive less support when they break the barrier of silence. Many of my patients have told me: Intentionally or not, when talking about their addiction, the listener reacts as if addiction in women were not possible; They make them feel like they’re worth nothing And, if they have children, they are considered the worst mother in the world. The worst part is that there are not as many books, support groups, 12-step groups and so on for women compared to the dozens of resources that exist for men.
Although the situation is difficult for both genders, it is time to see a woman who suffers from this addiction with the same eyes of understanding, charity and compassion that we have learned to have with men. The pain remains the same and the devastation that happens in your personal relationships is the same. For now, although today I do not have advice to overcome this addiction, I can ask that we have the courage to speak more about it and judge less when the situation arises.