Helping others is a very positive thing, but to be able to do it you must be good with yourself.
Sometimes I need to cry, in itself it is not very difficult for me. I am very sentimental, one of those people that a drama or animal movie makes her cry; the same thing happens to me if I see another living being suffer. Despite that, I am a person of great strength and willing to do whatever it takes for those who need it, but it really is sometimes exhausting not to see what you give compensated.
Not that I expect something in return for what I do for others, but a “thank you” or a “do you need something?” When I’m in a similar situation, I could use nothing bad from time to time.
Yes, it is true that there are situations that I can tolerate without affecting me much, but there are others where it is inevitable for me to remain silent. I am not someone who represses emotions or demands attention; as I said before, I am a strong person, but that strength often needs to be relieved by someone, or else “washed in tears.”
Many people will relate to this. It is that it does not matter if you are a man or a woman; If you are a person who supports without complaining every complex situation in your own life or that of others, sooner or later you will have to find a remedy for that emotional weight that wears you down if you don’t pay attention to it in time.
The science about it
Jordi Fernández Castro is a professor at the Autonomous University of Barcelona, in Spain. He affirms that feeling this emotional fatigue and the need to vent is very common, even more so when working in institutions such as hospitals, nursing homes and other places where health services are provided.
Fernández was able to determine this thanks to a study which also revealed that doctors, nurses and other health professionals suffer from it since they give a lot of themselves and they receive little in exchange for their effort.
Other study carried out by Russell Cropan, from Emory University, in Atlanta, argues that people who live in constant tension and problems at home, as well as those who experience job stress, suffer from this type of exhaustion.
To be completely honest with you I will tell you what I think about these studies. I do not disagree at all with the second; however, the first one does leave me thinking a bit.
Not only those who work in health institutions suffer from the work and emotional burden that their work refers to. Is it arduous and requires complete dedication? Yes, but it is a “job hazard”, a consequence of the profession that one performs; such as the emotional load that engineers, lawyers and other professionals carry with us.
In addition, we all have to endure many pressures and stress throughout the day, and not all of us are grateful or are attentive to our emotional needs, do they?
Symptoms of emotional exhaustion
Emotional exhaustion arises from a significant imbalance between what the person gives and what they receive in return; that is, she gives her best and greatest effort to her partner, family, friends, work and social service, but what she receives in return does not compensate what she gives.
It is “normal” that those who suffer from this discomfort have little time to themselves and do not receive any kind of recognition or gratitude for their willingness.
As a consequence of this lack of dedication to himself and the lack of attention for his emotional needs, the following series of symptoms appear:
1 Constant physical fatigue.
4 Lack of motivation.
5 Affective distancing.
6 Lack of concentration.
7 Frequent forgetfulness.
8 Generalized confusion.
9 Loss of energy.
10 General malaise (headache, decreased or increased appetite).
Mental health experts as well as doctors in general advise that those who suffer from it should:
1 Get adequate rest. Whether it’s improving the quality of your sleep or spending time at home.
2. Put yourself as a priority. You need to think more about yourself and the things that you need or make you happy.
3 Practicing relaxation exercises or yoga also helps a lot to release the load of daily stress.
4 Take vacations whenever possible, but not in an extreme way, as it can cause you unnecessary fatigue.
5 Find a daily activity that allows quiet moments.
6 Make an effort to stay positive, surrounding yourself with people who have a “good vibe.”
An advice that is also very successful is that offered by other experts. It’s about becoming more aware of your emotional limits ; that is, learn to detect the moment before emotional exhaustion to take your time to be alone and “recharge your batteries.”
There is nothing wrong with it serve others;it is more, «who does not live to serve, does not serve to live». However, everything has a limit, and if you are overwhelmed with responsibilities where you are not the main one, you will soon see how your physical and mental health wears out. Therefore, do not stop taking yourself into account always, at all times and in every situation, because if you feel good, you can continue to help others.