So beware, if the man you like or are with uses these words frequently, it’s time for you to have an honest conversation.
I think we all have a fear of lies, cheating and manipulation games, especially when they come out of the mouth of the person we love. For this reason, science has dedicated part of its research to reveal which are the phrases most used by liars, especially when we talk about men.
Janine Driver, made a compilation of the seven words that liars use the most.
If you listen to them, stop and analyze before you get hurt
The author explains that you have to be on your guard when a man answers or uses the word never instead of no. This is especially true when a man who lies feels cornered by questions. You feel that if you use the word “never” instead of a simple “no,” you have more power and it will be easier to convince the other person.
Someone who has nothing to hide will say, generally and for the most part, simply “no.”
2. The word “it” is the favorite dressing of liars
A person who is lying or being accused of something tries to create a distance between the lie and them. According to Driver, liars use “that woman”, for example to feel subconsciously that they do not have a relationship with the person in question.
“I don’t know that woman” is a typical liar’s response. “I don’t know Clara” is an answer that smells more of the truth.
3. Suddenly he becomes a “gentleman”
Driver explains that if the partner of one out of nowhere begins to respond “yes my lady” or “yes, your majesty”, with a sarcastic tone, either they are hiding something or they are lying to you.
4. “By the way …”
Experts explain that when someone lies they try to minimize the part they want to hide.
By the way, I ran into your best friend at the store. Something about seeing your best friend at the store makes him uncomfortable (maybe nothing happened, but something bothers him or he doesn’t want you to know), so he adds the “by the way” as a buffer for what he is going to say later .
“When this happens, pay attention to what follows the ‘by the way’, because usually that is where the most important part of the confession is,” explains Drivers.
5. The famous «but …»
Again, they try to downplay what they are hiding or keeping. “I know you think I’m unfaithful, but …”
6. Why would I do something like this?
They turn the blame. When you accuse them of something, instead of clarifying the situation, they “turn the tables”, as my grandmother used to say, and now the bad guy in the movie is you for having the “nerve” to doubt him.
7. “I left” or “I left”
Driver explains that these words are necessary in some sentences and are part of any dialogue, however in certain contexts they may be marking the presence of a lie.
“I left the office at 6 pm”, instead of saying that “I left or left the office at 6 pm. Driver explains that the almost inappropriate use of “these words denote the person’s subconscious desire to ‘stop’ or ‘give up’ the behavior they are hiding.”
We must remember that these words must be in a context of suspicion or erratic behavior that has nothing to do with the person you thought you knew. The use of them in phrases that have nothing to do with the context explained by the experts does not mean anything.
It is also important that if you suspect that he is lying to you, that they have a conversation in which you give him a real opportunity to be honest, and from there determine the direction of the relationship.