Your child lives in two worlds: your home, and school: Find out how to find out what happens to him when he leaves the safety of home.
They are at least five days a week that the little ones attend the “temple of knowledge” (I always wanted to use that phrase), so they will surely have a lot to tell about it. However, children do not always turn out to be so open to talk about their school day, which is why the first part of this article was born on how to ask little ones about the things that live in school. If you have not read it yet, you can check it here: Ask your child in another way how he did in school
As it seems to me a fundamental issue to be aware of our children, let me share some other questions that can help you in this task.
1. Is there someone you would like to play with that you haven’t?
Perhaps out of shame, your child has not been able to get close to a person with whom he wants to chat. Sometimes that is accentuated in adolescence when you want to greet the boy / girl you like and nothing else does not come out the words, or they come out, but by the heels. Help him work on his safety by interacting with other people.
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2. Who is the funniest person in the class?
95% of the groups have someone who always tries to be nice (if I know). Maybe some of his jokes were really funny or failing that, maybe they bothered your child. If this is the case, ask him to explain what happened, that will also help you to know things about his companions.
3. If you were the teacher, what would you do?
I would have given a 10 to all people like me, although I don’t know if that would have been precisely a good idea. Actually, with this question you can develop your critical view on the facts and learn about some aspects that might not be very clear in the teacher’s way of teaching. Perhaps his ideas of dynamics can be useful to carry out with him at home.
4. What was boring to you?
I fully understand that a study plan always tries to be as complete as possible, so children must be taught all the knowledge they should have at that stage. However, that doesn’t mean that your child has to be good at all activities. For example, don’t ask me about math because I change the conversation by two times three (well, I do master that math). By asking your child what he found boring in his day, you will discover what his talents are, inquiring about what he is passionate about doing and understanding it better.
5. Where do you play most at break time?
Not being in their “ideal” environment with their toys, makes children have to improvise and adapt to the place and conditions in which they are. When you ask him this question, you may discover that he played things that you did as a child and were not aware, or maybe he was like me, who liked to play football with friends with a plastic can filled with garbage. Good ‘ol times!
Relee: Children’s job is to play
When you have put these suggestions into practice, please share with us what your results were. The issue is that now you tell us how did you do in parenting school?