When having a baby, we seek to satisfy all their needs to the maximum. When we are pregnant, we imagine cradling him and watching him sleep, but when he is born we realize that at first it is difficult to perceive what he wants, and this generates anxiety.
Seeking the well-being of the child at all costs is part of our maternal instinct. We change his diaper, we check that he is not cold, hot, hungry or sleepy, but sometimes we do not give enough importance to his main need: physical contact with his mother.
Has it happened to you that the child sleeps peacefully on top of you, and that he cries as soon as you put him in his crib? Perhaps you went out to make a purchase and leave the baby in the care of her grandmother or with a close relative, but half an hour after leaving they call you to tell you that the baby is heartbroken, and that they have already reviewed all the. Why is it?
At birth, the baby leaves behind nine months, gestating in the womb, where it has continuous contact; he is not hungry or cold, he listens to your heart beat, he knows your voice, which makes him feel safe and protected; in short, you have all your needs covered instantly. And what makes you think that as soon as you are born you will not want the same? As the psychologist Rosa Jové says in her book Happy parenting, the newborn requires an environment that tries to resemble intrauterine life as much as possible; This is known as exterogestation. You have to give her time to adjust to the new life outside, as she is not prepared to face this great change so abruptly. This period can take around nine months or so.
Some benefits of physical contact with the mother for a baby are the following:
The body temperature of the newborn is regulated
At the beginning, the baby does not regulate its body temperature well, so being on top of your body you transfer heat and it is less prone to hypothermia.
It has been proven that babies who are carried by their mother for longer, cry less than those whose mothers do not carry as much, as this is the only way they can claim to return to her lap, because this calms them down and reduces the stress you may have.
Has less colic and helps reflux
Being in the arms, in an upright position, helps to relieve colic and prevents reflux.
It favors the correct establishment of breastfeeding
Being closer to the mother encourages more frequent breastfeeding, which is vital for the mother to have enough milk and to establish proper breastfeeding.
For all the above reasons, the baby will sleep better by having his mother close by giving him love, warmth, food and security, he falls asleep faster and for longer periods of time.
Helps your brain development
When the baby is touched, we give him the message that he is loved, so that stimulus contributes to brain connections that stimulate the proper development of his brain.
As can be seen, it is vitally important for the baby to be in physical contact with its mother. However, when for some reason it is not possible for the child to carry out this task full time, it is just as important that whoever is caring for the child can understand and try to meet this need as best as possible. Something that has helped me a lot with my daughter, in order to be able to carry her in my arms and do other tasks, is the use of ergonomic chargers or baby carriers. Read about them in the following article, Eight benefits of carrying our baby in a baby carrier. Take care that they are ergonomic boots, so that they do not affect the hips and spine of the child.
Do not be afraid of spoiling your baby to be in your arms – as some people say -, since he is already used to it from your womb, he needs it. Let’s not underestimate this basic need for human physical contact. Remember that this brings many benefits for your child: optimal physical, brain and emotional development, and a lot of happiness.