Read on and discover what every parent should teach their children, before allowing them to leave home alone.
What I remember most about my time babysitting is how difficult it was to face the challenge of letting them go out alone, as well as the fear I felt every time they left at the possibility of something happening to them. However, like it or not, this is a process we must go through, as sooner or later children have to grow up and become independent. So, as with all the inevitable, the only option is to get used to the idea and face the situation in the best possible way.
That is why I am addressing those parents who have to deal with the reality of letting their little ones grow and at the same time with the desire to always protect them. For these cases, nothing better than applying the three Ps: prevent, plan and proceed. The first P is to think about the risks, the second to make a plan that includes all the points and the last, to proceed to put them into practice.
I invite you to reread: Ask for forgiveness or ask for permission? the dilemma of adolescents.
What to tell my child to keep him safe outside the home?
1. Never lose control
Whatever you do, don’t put your safety at risk. Alcohol, drugs, illegal acts may seem attractive in youth, but the dangers involved are not worth it. Make sure your child is aware of this before allowing him to go out alone.
2. Obey directions
Starting with the traffic signals, make sure your child knows how to drive on the streets. It is common to see some young people venture across the avenues in the middle or drive as if they were racing drivers, as well as it is common to learn of the fatal consequences of this type of actions and others that are carried out on public roads.
3. Avoid dangerous areas
By dangerous I mean lonely, dark and high-crime places, especially when they are alone. To try your luck and go to places of this type, is to follow the steps of a recipe for disaster.
4. Do not presume of economic resources
It is important that you talk with your children about the small actions that can make them easy targets of some danger, for example, opening their wallet in front of strangers or talking about the material resources they have. We cannot know who is listening to us and what their intentions are, so we must be cautious. If they have to use ATMs, preferably those of the banks and during business hours.
5. Tell where you are going, with whom and how long it will take
It is necessary to know all these details before they leave home, but the most important thing is not to lie about it. If they cheat, they prevent you from reacting in an emergency, so it is essential to maintain contact with the family and notify any change of plans.
6. Wear comfortable shoes
Especially in girls, this is of great importance. Interviews with criminals have revealed that women who wear shoes that are too high and have long hair are the favorites to be attacked. Whether you are a boy or a girl, it is best to be prepared in case you have to run.
7. Bring money and ID
Never let your children go out without the necessary resources to be able to move independently outside the home. Many parents always give the minimum so that their children do not abuse money, but it is important that they have something in case there is an emergency. Don’t forget to give your children priority emergency numbers.
8. Be careful with public transport
Especially when it is very late, public transport can be a risk for anyone. In any case, plan to spend the night where he is or preferably, pick him up. Buses and taxis are dangerous, especially for young people.
9. Don’t date strangers
Anyone would say that is common sense, but teenagers tend to be very confident. The proof is the news about young people who were deceived by people they met on the internet. With that in mind, I advise you to be very clear and firm when discussing this topic with your children.
If you need to know how to communicate with your child you can read: Dialogue with teenagers.