Make No Mistake With Your Teenager And Then Complain

The problem then is no longer the children, but the parents, who resist being part of the changes by promoting bad habits.

Let me tell you something that you may not like to hear, but if you are the parent of a teenage child it is important that you know it, but above all you assume it. Your son is not a boy. It is true that he is not an adult either, in any case he is initiating that process. But the most important thing about that reality is that adolescents are no longer interested in remaining children, and it is not smart to continue treating them as such.

The signs that your little one has grown up are unmistakable, that you don’t want to see them is a different thing than it is not happening. The physical changes, the brand new rebellion, the sudden interest in sexuality speak for themselves. It is the parents who insist on putting off the inevitable by continuing to treat them like the babies they are no longer.

It is from the age of 13 that the process of separation from the family nucleus begins. They enjoy solitude or time with friends more than family, parents’ opinion is no longer decisive, theirs is all that seems to matter to them, as well as the influence of friends and the media.

They obviously grow up, and do everything that is expected to do at that stage, because if something is documented, it is the attitudes of these ages; They are even already cataloged in what would be pre-adolescence (9 years), adolescence (13 years), and post-adolescence (18-22 years), and each one portrays exactly what happens in each period.

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The problem then is no longer the children, but the parents, who resist being part of the changes by promoting bad habits.

The 5 mistakes made by teenage parents

Not giving them responsibilities at home

Mothers especially feel comfortable being your children’s employees, and although they complain that they don’t help, they don’t hold them responsible for household chores, often with the excuse that they study. Remember that things are in addition to, not instead of. It is your duty and her to be responsible in every way.

Treat them sometimes as a child and sometimes as an adult

This is a card that children play at their convenience, since they know that they will obtain the desired result. So the advice is to be firm in the procedures and not fall into their game of I can alone, and then it turns out that they always don’t. If they have grown enough to claim their space then also to behave at the height of their years.

Give you extra money for no reason

Giving money without further argument to children, regardless of their age, the only thing it serves is to promote their dependence, and the idea that they deserve everything without merit that mediates for it. It is understandable that they depend economically until a certain age on their parents, but that does not mean that Mom and Dad are traveling checkbooks.

Be your driver or your assistant

It is true that security is a sensitive issue and that it is your responsibility to keep them safe, however do not agree to let them decide the agenda, remember that you are in control. Many mothers live according to the needs of their children, and this makes you look like you are at their service. Then don’t complain when they don’t respect your authority.

Use confrontation as communication

Dealing with a teenager is not an easy thing, but making each challenge a conflict for what it serves is to add fuel to the fire and take it away from us. Which is neither intelligent nor productive for either party. Both have a voice and vote, and both need to express them and be respected. Think about it the next time you decide to fight.

We cannot avoid the changes and behaviors that take place in adolescence, but they at least have the excuse of the transition that is taking place in their lives, but you as a mother or father, what excuses do you have for not accepting that your child is growing up? and that you should let it mature?

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