If your child is in the age of uncomfortable questions at all times, this article can help you survive this stage.
How many times have your children surprised you with questions that make you uncomfortable, or that you prefer to ignore? All of us who are parents, we know what it is to live this situation. Unfortunately, no one prepared us for this wonderful stage of the children, and we get through it as best we can, without any kind of support.
Survive the stage of the why? It is not so difficult: we simply have to know a few simple facts to learn how to answer your questions, according to your age. For this, it is important to know some things about the stage of cognitive development in which our children are:
Three year olds
At this stage and up to six years of age, an average child socializes and reinforces his language. At approximately 3 years of age, his perception and knowledge of the reality that surrounds him is still not in doubt. You must understand that your child is a child! Therefore, you should know that you do not need to give big speeches or long explanations.
Children from four to six years
At this age, children have begun to doubt the world around them and seek deeper and more rational answers. You must understand that you should not react with fear and that your children’s questions should not take away your sleep or make your heart race. That curiosity that is born in your son is healthy and he wants to share it with you. If your answer is like the one you would give to an adult, there will come a time when you will not be able, nor will you know how to handle the questions that will follow.
Tips for answering your children’s questions
Below I share with you six tips that will help you answer your children’s questions and enjoy this stage with them:
1. Be honest
Are you the lord and master of mankind’s knowledge? Are you the beacon of wisdom? Are you the guide to human learning? I can assure you that, like me, you are not. So, if you don’t know the answer to the question your child asks you, the best thing you can do is recognize it, and look for it. In addition, they can look for it together, what better way to communicate with your children than to teach them by example.
2. Teach them to find their answers
Once you’ve given them an answer, teach them that there are multiple sources of knowledge: fathers, mothers, and grandparents are invaluable sources of learning. Value them as such and your child will understand that one answer is not enough.
3. Listen to the opinion of your children
It is not enough to give an answer and turn around. Now as a parent you should ask them what they think about it. It’s basic communication: make sure your child has started to think, express himself and, better yet, cultivate his curiosity.
4. Attitude teaches more than the response itself
When answering a question from your child, relax, control yourself and with a soft and deliberate tone begin to answer. It will not matter what the answer is, if your attitude is assertive and adequate to answer, your child will learn much more from the answer you give.
5. Your answer should stimulate the imagination
When answering, use your own experience. Give him more information to help him be imaginative, to play with him. After all, you too will exercise your imagination in that dialogue.
6. Never say “I don’t know” as a final answer
Even if you don’t know the answer, never let “I don’t know” be the final answer. If you do not know something, this should open the doors to seek other ways to find the answers, more imaginative, both for him and for you.
The sources of knowledge are inexhaustible, even more so today, in a technologically connected world. Take advantage of them for the benefit of your family. As Professor Memelovsky, a character on the television program Odyssey Bubbles, said: “With a little faith and science, a hundred thousand things we can invent.
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