How do we expect it to be a society in which the idea of love is founded on simple and immediate complacency? It is not unreasonable to say that the only thing that saves is love.
I recently read Edith Cavell’s story, and it made a great impression on me. She was working as a nurse in the Red Cross in Belgium at the time that this country was invaded by Germany, in the First World War. The Germans had ordered hospitals to hand over all dangerous or suspected wounded and sick. Edith, instead of obeying the order and delivering the persecuted sick people, helped them escape. In all, she released more than 200 Belgian, English and French soldiers, many of whom were not only able to escape to safety, but also rejoined their combat positions.
A spy exposed Edith’s actions and she was sentenced to death in a court martial – as if she had been a British spy agent. She was shot on October 12, 1915.
The most impressive thing in history, however, are some of his words recorded during the court martial and which were carved in marble on the monument that has been erected in his honor in the cities of London, Brussels and Paris: «Patriotism does not it is enough: I must have love for all humanity ».
Love for pleasure
This world presents us with a selfish way of living, and seduces us with the idea that love is a tool of self-satisfaction that we should only use to procure temporary pleasures and immediate well-being and if it does not work, then we can abandon it.
This conception of love is what has caused the great wave of ruptures in romantic relationships, in particular the gale of divorces that devastate all those who are close to the couple.
It is the wrong concept of love that makes us feel offended by the slightest error in communication on the part of our closest beings and what makes, when the couple faces adverse situations such as illness, financial difficulties and problems of coexistence. Let’s make a summary judgment (like the court-martial that was made to Edith Cavell) in which we very easily decide that we are not willing to endure any kind of discomfort or make any kind of sacrifice. Thus, we leave the relationship or make our loved ones (sometimes even our own children) the target of all the blame for spoiling our “good life.”
And if that happens with our partners, spouses and loved ones, how do we expect it to be a society in which the idea of love is founded on simple and immediate complacency?
That is what this other article talks about.
What is genuine love like?
Years ago my mother served as a teacher for an evening religion class. One of her students came from a family with limited economic resources, who had just arrived in the city from a place quite far away, because a relative had found a job for the father of the family. The girl had half her pre-university studies, and the process of registering for a school in the new city was more or less simple. But her father told her that she did not have the money to buy the required package of books, an issue that was not necessary at her rural school: therefore, she had to miss the semester.
My mother noticed her student’s sadness and asked her what was wrong with her. She told him the whole thing. But there was something else: even if they got the money for the books, she could no longer register because the next day her father started working very early. He couldn’t accompany her.
That day my mother came home after giving her class, in an unusual way she cooked the next day, left clear instructions to my brother, my father and me about what to do if we needed them, and she told us: «Tomorrow I’m not going to be at home: I am going to accompany my student to enroll in school, because her father cannot go ». She spoke by phone with the girl’s father and, without telling us anything else, the next day she lined up for two hours to attend to special situations; under the inclement summer sun, she helped the girl enroll and then went to the school bookstore to buy all the books that came on the list.
Love: the higher law
Love is the very essence of life, it is what babies cry for, it is what young people seek so eagerly, the bond in the conjugal union, what lubricates our family relationships to avoid friction and what makes us helps everyone else, with the sole desire that they be well and happy.