When our children have unpleasant behaviors or habits, we look for where they could learn them, and by not finding an origin we conclude that it is heredity. If your child does not know how to behave, here I explain why
I recently had the opportunity to listen to a conversation in the waiting room of a doctor’s office, where a woman said to another: «I don’t know why my son is so eater, I already put him on a diet a thousand times, he doesn’t want to exercise and the doctor says that if he does not lose weight until he is diabetic, he will come back, I say he ‘grandfather’ because my father was just the same … »This woman was unable to see that she herself had an exorbitant weight and that it was most likely that bad eating habits persisted in their own home.
For many, it is easier to blame others than to accept responsibility, and this often happens when raising children and we do not like the results. Here are some bad habits and bad habits that harm, and that our children learn with great ease:
1. Speak badly of people …
… Judge and criticize them. For some families it is normal to express themselves badly about other people, to criticize their way of being, their clothing, their way of speaking and everything that surrounds them. When children do the same to others and parents allow, and even encourage, it, they shouldn’t be surprised if their children embarrass them or set themselves up as their own judges.
2. Eating “junk food”
Either daily or very frequently, in order for a child to be overweight — unless it is due to illness — there must be a parent who will feed him and give him no limits. Children learn to eat what we eat, they acquire and repeat our attitudes towards food, such as: our dislike of vegetables, “picking at food”, avoiding trying new foods, and so on; And it can be from the simplest such as using cutlery properly to feeling guilty for what we eat indiscriminately. Getting fruit or having a soda is a matter of habit.
3. Sedentary lifestyle …
… Or little physical activity is taught, learned and encouraged at home. Just as there are sedentary families whose main activity is that their members get together to watch television, there are also those who like to go for a walk, ride a bicycle or do fun things outdoors. It’s not about money, it’s about habits.
4. Physical and verbal assault and abuse of others
Arrogance, arrogance, arrogance, and haughtiness are cultivated, fostered, and passed between parents and children. The humiliating parent teaches their child two things: to humiliate others or to be a victim and accept the abuse of others.
5. The value and use of money, and its priority in life
There are for whom money is everything and is above anything. Life is about earning it, accumulating it, showing off it, flaunting it and using it to subdue others and achieve prestige, and establish that you are worth what you have. If this philosophy of life is deplorable in itself, things get worse when you don’t have it. Children grow up desiring what they cannot have, envying and seeking to live on appearances; voids and a lot of frustration are created, one lives with resentment and disappointment. Working hard, earning things, saving, living on less than what you earn, and helping others are habits that are learned from parents.
Do not look guilty for the bad that happens in your life or in that of your children, the faster you accept that you are the only one responsible, the faster things will improve and that is the first step of a very good habit in the lives of your children. little ones.