Adolescence is a very sensitive stage for human beings, especially in these times. Therefore, the accompaniment of adults can be vital. Are you really committed to your children?
With each school year that passes, the number of parents of teens who attend school meetings drops considerably. When talking with them looking for reasons for the lack of interest they show in not participating with their children, it is very common to hear that their adolescents are old enough to take responsibility for their homework, extracurricular activities, that they no longer like to go to school. watching them at their sports games and that they don’t like their friends to see them with their parents “like little children.” And hiding behind these reasons, coupled with long work hours and personal commitments, parents withdraw from their children and only go to school each year to enroll them or when they already have serious problems.
Teachers and school counselors complain about the little interest and lack of commitment of these parents, then the parents themselves blame them and hold them responsible for not educating their children correctly, then the fight does not end and the young people are the only ones who are harmed as always.
Does all of this sound familiar?
Adolescents need the presence of their parents at this stage of life to consolidate their training in every sense. It is the stage where a special interest in drugs, alcohol, cigarettes and sex is awakened. Young people are in search of their vocation but at the same time they lack will, lack of identity and apathy wins them over in everything. Here are some recommendations that can help you show your commitment and sincere love for your children.
1. At home you educate, at school you teach
If your child is rude or rude, believe it, it is not the teacher’s responsibility, it is yours. The teacher is going to teach chemistry and biology, but if your child is unable to sit up, show respect to his classmates, or do homework, then the ball is in your court. It is your responsibility to educate and discipline your child.
2. Meet the parents of your children’s classmates
Attend parent meetings and place other peers’ parents. Introduce yourself and – if possible – maintain a line of communication to make a common front. It is very common for boys at this age to lie and cover each other, even using another parent to achieve their not always healthy purposes. If the boys are going out, contact the parents of other boys and check that everything is in order.
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3. Accompany your children to their presentations and sports
A young person feels the support and trust of his parents when they not only accompany him in his games and extracurricular activities, but also encourage him, not criticize him. Offer to take him, bring him, attend his artistic activities or of his interest, give him his space to live with other young people and stay close.
4. Maintain electronic communication with teachers
Monthly or bimonthly he sends an email to his teachers to find out about his behavior and his school achievement, his challenges and the things he is doing well. One of the most difficult things about dealing with a parent is telling him at the end of the year that his son failed a course and realizing that he is the last to know about the son’s problems.
Once a year, make an appointment and meet personally with one of their teachers or academic advisor.
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5. Establish a channel of trust and dialogue with your teenagers
A young person is the responsibility of a teacher for a year or a few months only, but for a father his son is that, his son, for a lifetime. Nobody will do for your children what you are not willing to do. So stay close to them at this crucial stage of life.
If you missed something or did something wrong in your children’s childhood, adolescence is the second chance you need to have to correct the mistakes of the past. Don’t let it pass. What you do not invest in time and affection these days will be what the problems that in the future will generate your children as misfit adults. Do not forget.
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