The objective is to raise awareness of how we usually judge, how easy it is to do so and how we get upset because they do it with oneself. So I propose three things that can be carried out in ourselves to be
The host of a tv program wanted to do an experiment with a homeless man who asked for money on the street; gave him $100 and followed him. This person went to a store, after a few minutes came out with a bag. The presenter with some discouragement confirmed his suspicion, I quote: “If you give money to people, they will waste it on drugs or alcohol.” Still, he continued to follow him along with his cameraman. They arrived at a park where the homeless began to distribute plates of food among the people who were there. The animator, saddened, turned to him and apologized for having thought badly of him and confessed his experiment, which in the end became a teaching for him. Without expressing any kind of annoyance, he accepted his apology and told him how after having everything, in an instant he was left with nothing. The boy felt more embarrassed and accepted his mistake of prejudging people. The story did not end there, the host of the program presented it to the public and triggered the reflection of many people, to the extent that an account was opened for our protagonist, in which several dollars were raised to continue doing his work.
Heartwarming story, don’t you think? As I watched the video, apart from making a lump in my throat, it reminded me of the times that people think the same thing about beggars: “I won’t give it because it will be spent on drugs or alcohol.” Which made me wonder: do they really care that they don’t waste their money or is it a pretext for not parting with a few pesos? I don’t doubt that a lot of people miss it, but will they all be the same?
Another common comment is: “You are young, strong, you should go to work, instead of waiting for money to fall from the sky.” However, do we know why they are lying in the street? Will it be very comfortable to beg? Does he have a family? Has life played a trick on him? or really only does it for pleasure and laziness Impossible to know!
So why do we judge? Who or what gives us the right to do it? However, when it comes to being judged we no longer like it. “What does it matter to you”, “that you worry about your own things”, “how does it affect you?” with strangers, but with the same family.
And how many times have you been judged without knowing that you have a concern or a problem that causes your distraction, your mood to live with people, your tired face, your skinny body, etc.
Can you imagine that instead of criticizing or judging they would give you support when you needed it? How different it would be! But for the others to change, we must also do so, so I propose the following:
If you see a situation in which you believe “requires your perception” without asking, be silent and respect. Think that by not having the context of the situation, you cannot and should not give an opinion, not even for yourself.
If it really is a person you love, express your sincere interest to support him and make yourself available; If he wishes, he will share his problem with you.
If it is within your means, help people, otherwise better not even offer yourself. Helping is not always that easy, so if you don’t know how to listen, give advice or anything else, don’t even try it.
There is a lot said around that “treat people, how you want them to treat you and your loved ones”, so if you avoid judging without knowing it, it can make you an exceptional person and out of the ordinary; At the same time, the treatment of others towards you and yours will be different.