There are many riches your children get if dad gets involved: He has a special magic to make all activities fun and exciting.
Men who are fathers are often neglected, and their role is not always recognized or praised as much as mothers. And it is easy for women to notice that they are about to be a mother: their swollen belly and that special shine on their faces give them away.
Dad, on the other hand, carries the new baby on his mind and heart, wondering what he will be like, if he will be healthy, and with what he will pay for college. This practical concern is no less loving or special than that of mothers.
The role of parents is indispensable ,valuable and irreplaceable. Various studies confirm that their role in breeding It is radical, because they give children the support to go out into the world safely.
Today, we want to acknowledge their valuable contribution in a daily activity that children adore and that they, with their manly essence, maximize to generate more learning and neural connections: reading the night story.
Mommy can do it, but… It’s better dad!
The research professor Anna Duursma , has focused her research on father involvement in child development, particularly in the areas of language, literacy, and cognitive development.
As an expert on the subject, she assures that parents enhance their children’s development by reading stories at night, and goes further: she states that it is much more beneficial for the father to read the stories than for the mother to do it.
He study , conducted from the University of Wollogong in Australia, it was applied to 430 American families, looking for the impact of paternal and maternal reading on cognitive development, literacy, and language in children.
The shocking thing about the result is that when you read to them, Mom, there is greater cognitive development, which is wonderful! But when reading Daddy, the benefits are impressive and far greater: “Parental reading at 24 and 36 months significantly predicted children’s language and cognitive abilities, as well as their book knowledge in preschool,” says Professor Duursma in their conclusions.
Dad is more complex, and that’s okay!
It is true that the mother is the one who usually spends more time with the child, and contributes a lot to each little one she cares for and attends. The point to be highlighted is to explain why the children’s language impulse is so powerful when dad reads the story.
Researcher Duursma says that this happens due to two factors:
1 The night makes them more attentive
The serenity of the night, and the relaxing moment help them to pay full attention to the activity
2 Dad makes it difficult
In short, the language that dad uses to interact with children is more complex. They ask more abstract inference questions, while the mothers make comments and questions more concrete and simple.
But what do we read?
Personally, knowing the data that Professor Ann investigated, shocked me. It amazes me how fathers and mothers can complement each other and enhance the development of their children in a natural way. Also, if Dad takes the story time at night, Mom can always have extra chill time. Everyone wins!
Now the question is, what material can we present to our children that interests and entertains them?
Magazine Be parents gives us some advice in this regard, and suggests dividing the reading proposal for our children by age: preschool and school.
From the first months to 4 years
Based on a proposal from Editorial Aldor, the magazine suggests that we look for the little ones, books with pictures, to develop the imagination of the little ones while their eyes follow the illustrations of the text.
Be guided by what catches the attention of your children, and choose books made of durable materials such as fabric and plastic (there are some lined, almost laminated). At first, your little ones will just want to bite into the book, but little by little they will like to turn its pages.
Eventually, around two years of age, your children will have the patience to allow you to turn the pages (although they will not always allow you to follow the order of each one, it does not matter!).
When their interest is piqued, between the ages of 2 and 3, you can choose short, repetitive stories with large, engaging pictures. The animals love them. You can also choose surprise books that contain movable tabs, although if your little one wants to manipulate them a lot, it will be an investment that will not last.
The reading of words suggested by preschool texts should contain many images and terms that allow oral expression.
From 4 years old to 7
Rhymes are an excellent resource for little ones who are learning to read. At four years old, the letters draw their attention and your children may already recognize their name if they see it written on their backpack or in your notes. It is still important that they contain lots of images.
If your 5-year-old begins to learn letters, you can gradually increase the level of complexity of the stories. It also helps to look for books in cursive letter, in some kindergartens it is the first choice of writing because of the connection between words that helps them join them when speaking.
From 7 to 10 years. The suggestion with older children is to incorporate action, issues that impact them, that teach them. Curiosities, and stories of fairies, mythological and magical beings.
From 10 to 12 years old. If you’ve managed to interest your child so far, what follows will be a piece of cake. Get closer with your child in search of the great treasures ofchild reading that have been generated. There are many action and adventure sagas in bookstores that you will love.
From 12 years. At this age and your little ones have established tastes, expand them with adapted biographies, stories of children like them, or books that explain problems such as healthy relationships, self-esteem, or risk prevention.
Make time daddy, go
A common obstacle for parents to live quality moments with their children is the busy life we lead today. Dad, don’t forget that your little ones will be children for a limited time, disappearing like water in your hands.
Their restless eyes look at you all the time, and they also look at your priorities. They do not understand that you are so important, and that many businesses depend on you.They look at your love, your attention, and your treatment.
Dad, please don’t fall into the mirage of “quality time”, a common lie that some parents take off the blame for not paying attention to the family.
Quality time is spending the last 20 minutes of the day for your children, generating valuable memories and enhancing their skills. You dare? Today you can start!