Controlling children’s anxiety requires using the right words.
Talking to a child about emotions is a difficult undertaking. Come on, if we adults have problems with handling and understanding them, how can we explain to a little person what they mean and how to handle them?
It is clear that anxiety is a non-exclusive emotion of children, although in this article we are going to focus on them. Because being able to manage anxiety is a skill that will surely help you in your adult life. It is a complicated matter, but we cannot always have what we want when we want, and anxiety control comes hand in hand with patience; another first world virtue.
Reread: 9 symptoms that show that stress got the better of you.
The PsychCentral site published a work by Renee Chaim, a specialist in positive psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, in which she talks about the proper way to talk to a child with anxiety, using the right words to make the minor can control their impulses. Let’s see their indications and suggestions to express what causes you anxiety:
1. Through drawing
Chaim explains that the ideal is to ask the child if it is possible to draw what he feels, since this activity works as an outlet for his feelings if it is impossible for him to express it in words.
2. Control the situation through play
Playing with the moment, without reducing the seriousness of the situation, of course, is another interesting recommendation. According to the specialist, posing to the child a scene in which they are going to inflate a fictitious balloon can help them control their breathing. If you say “calm down” or “breathe”, the panic attack could prevent the message from being received properly, but with some kind of game the result can be diametrically better.
3. Make him believe in himself
Using affirmations can work well. Suppose the child shows anxiety about an activity in which he is not considered capable (this also includes the common sense of tutors: do not make the boy jump from the bungee if he is scared to death); Thus, when faced with an episode prior to an exam, for example, Chaim points out that having them record and repeat “I can do it” ten times will undoubtedly help minors.
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4. Stop the clocks
It also works to pretend that time lasts longer. What does this refer to? Well, the advice is to create a situation where the child is told the following: “Okay, you’re worried, but let’s do this: put your worry here (please act Oscar-worthy with the mime) and let’s go walk (or run, dance, buy ice cream, watch TV); After a few minutes, pick up the worry in a calmer moment.
5. Using an object of attachment
Finally, in the face of anxiety attacks, a pen and a paper are the best allies. In addition to drawing, it is also advisable to make a list of things that calm the child. Ask him exactly what makes him feel better, be it a situation or an object. If you say that Teddy Bear (most bears are called Teddys) is the one to calm you down, then the idea is to take Mr. Teddy everywhere.
If you want to know how to use an object of attachment, reread: Goodbye to fears: how to face the first day of school.
Have you faced an anxiety crisis with your child or with a close family member? How do you handle them? How have you solved them? If you think Renee Chaim’s indications and suggestions will help you, put them into practice at the first opportunity and see their results.