When you decide to wait to have intimate relationships, you are training in the school of authentic love, because your desires for intimacy will not be based on the desire to possess the other, but on total surrender.
The word “chastity” seems to be forbidden in most current settings. Both in the educational, psychological and social fields; but especially among teenagers. At this stage it may even be outlawed. However, chastity is a value that remains in force.
Deciding not to be intimate is not just a decision for religious believers or fanatics. It is also a decision that many make based on the project of a lifelong love and for the sake of a commitment to establish a family.
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The medical doctor, Jokin de Irala, says that the value of waiting: “It is an act of love that will materialize when you give yourself for the first time to that person with whom you have decided to share your life and build a family.”
A courtship based on the value of waiting is a unique opportunity to deepen your companionship, respect, affection and mutual knowledge. When you decide to wait to have intimate relationships, you are training in the school of authentic love, because your desires for intimacy will not be based on the desire to possess the other, but on total surrender.
Love and its manifestations
Many say that if “there is love, anything goes.” Actually, do not confuse love with its expressions. Love, beyond everything, is also a moral decision. And valuing waiting is a decision that expresses the depth of your love for the other person.
Know yourself to love fully
It is essential that you know yourself, that you recognize your weaknesses, your fragile points; Perhaps you begin to discover that there are areas of your body more sensitive to others and perhaps, on the contrary, you do not recognize your limits. Knowing you will allow you to know your gaps and thus exercise self-control.
Talk to your partner
Establish rules among yourselves, such as not being alone for a long time, not being in a closed room, not staying overnight in the same room, and so on.
Talk about your privacy, express how you feel about certain gestures, contacts, etc. It is very important that you express everything that makes you uncomfortable or generates anxiety.
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A trip is not a fall
If for any reason, you and your partner have transgressed the educational and religious or personal norms that have been established, do not give up, and if you fall, get up, talk to whoever corresponds and start again. Genuine repentance heals all wounds and gives strength to move forward.
A life of prayer and faith
Keep your faith high, do not stop praying and asking God for strength to fulfill your waiting time. Prayer moves the doorknob that communicates you with God and immediately you feel the welcome announcement of Jesus Christ; furthermore, if you do it with complete sincerity, his supernatural grace will be poured out on you and all temptation is more easily resisted.
I share with you this video for you to reflect. It is from the audiovisual production company Dos Cincuenta y Nueve Film, whose wish is that young people dare to be true lovers, choosing the value of waiting.
I want you to fully enjoy your courtship and that you can respect yourself, respect the other and, especially, value waiting for a total surrender of soul, mind and body.