Every day can be a new beginning, don’t let a bad moment make you lose the illusion of living.
If overcoming a love breakup in the middle of youth is extremely difficult, imagine what it means to have to go through that situation and all that it represents at 40 years of age. Indeed, when you choose to marry someone, you assume that your relationship will last for a lifetime, and if possible beyond. However, that does not happen in all relationships, and you usually end up alone, dealing with everything that involves a divorce or separation: depressed, with children to give a lot of reasons that you do not understand, and without know what you are going to do from then on.
Complicated panorama opens before this situation. Despite this, it is not the end of life and you should be able to see it as a new opportunity, an impulse to take airs and give another direction to your existence. That is why below I will give you some ideas that will help you transform your life.
1. Complain and cry, but don’t stagnate
It is only fair that it hurts and it is necessary that you grieve to remove all the heaviness of suffering and pain from your body. Therefore, you should not feel any guilt: do it, but do not allow that to take control of your situation and your life. I assure you that if you give yourself that opportunity, after a reasonable time you will be able to move on, turning the page towards a new dawn.
2. Take in a good way the changes that are coming
It is normal for many people to stay in a state of pause, not knowing what to do or where to go, but the worst mistake is refusing to move forward because of what happened. Follow your rhythm but do not spend more time than it deserves to suffer for someone who is no longer in your life.
In the moments when you feel better, start making a list of things you want and can do (for example: moving from home or city, a trip, a change of look ). This includes short, medium and long term goals. The purpose of these plans is to offer you something positive to focus on, which you can strive for.
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3. Expand your circle of friends
And this is not necessarily with a view to seeking a romance, or at least it is not the primary objective. Making new friends, whether on the Internet or on an outing with friends to a party that you have been invited, has the purpose of clearing you up, of changing the scene. And if in the long run it brings you a new love, well, but don’t force it, since “there is nothing left of the desire but fatigue.”
4. Take care of yourself
I’m sure that for years you put yourself aside to favor him and many of his needs and requirements. Perhaps you also over-dedicated your strength so that everything at home was love and beauty, and because of this you completely neglected yourself. Well, you no longer have excuses: take time to exercise a little, go shopping, read a good book or magazine, and so on. That is, make time for yourself, to love yourself and like everything you owe.
Although it is difficult to believe, if you feel good about yourself, if you love yourself as you should, that will be what others see of you, because that well-being will be transmitted in a natural and pleasant way.
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5. Do you have a hobby ? Well, enjoy it and, if you can, turn it into something to earn money with
Whatever you like to do in your free time and have a talent for doing it, don’t put it aside. If you also see that you can take advantage of it, then give it with all the strength that you can.
Whether it’s macramé, painting, music, dance, makeup, cooking or even the career you left behind to dedicate yourself to your home, if you love it and want a future that you are passionate about, then do it! You are at a good time in your life to keep dreaming and climbing very high.
Friend, age does not matter to dream high, to achieve everything you set your mind to. Nobody has it easy after a breakup, but that is the challenge: not to let yourself sink into the quicksand of suffering. It is always a good time to start over.