Children need information to understand their environment, but they also need your innocence. Answering their questions is allowing them to understand the world and as a mother it is important that you help them.
At all times children have asked questions, and before as now, parents are just as ill-prepared to answer them. Although we had the same doubts, we always ended up going off on a tangent because we have no idea how to answer them, or we are simply terrified of ending up talking too much.
Children need information to understand their environment, but they also need your innocence. Answering their questions is allowing them to learn and understand the world. As a mother it is important that you know that you do not help them if you lie to them, or if you fill them with information that they cannot process. There are always nice ways of saying things.
The magical worlds of stories have a reason for being. Its purpose is to feed curiosity, fantasy, their innocence and at the same time to introduce them in a simple way into transcendental topics such as love, death, friendship and family, to name a few examples. Not everything can be explained with stories, but try not to let what you tell them harm them.
In respect, I invite you to read: Never betray the trust of your children
1. Always give an answer
If you leave him with the doubt, he will seek to answer it in other ways, and it could happen that he discovers things that you do not want, or that he ends up drawing conclusions based on urban legends that only promote misinformation and prejudice.
2. He who gets angry loses!
Showing yourself irritated, or forbidding him to talk about certain topics, will make him associate them with uncomfortable or inappropriate situations, and this will prevent him from processing that information in a healthy way. It’s also important that you don’t let your answers make him feel guilty about something.
3. Find out how much he knows about the topic
Return the question to him, so you will get information, and you will know how to handle yourself. Sometimes in their innocence they only want to know a small part of the matter and we get intense wanting to teach. Try to understand your question well before answering.
4. Be yourself
Children are very suspicious; make them feel comfortable, otherwise even if you don’t tell them it’s a bad thing they will feel it. The ideal is to be brief in the explanations, if you give a lot of information you could confuse it and raise more questions.
5. Use your imagination
You do not need to resort to lies to succeed in their interrogations. Exercise your imagination and use it to stage your responses. They will do the rest to suit their ages and concepts. Or if you’re downright lost in a pumpkin patch, saying you don’t know isn’t the end of the world either.
6. Take the initiative
It is true that you cannot know what is going through someone else’s head, but there are situations at home that are not alien to children and about which sooner or later they will want to have information. If this is the case, go ahead and talk with them, so you will have the opportunity to be the one who leads the conversation
7. Are you asking or asking for help?
It is important that you pay attention to the conversations that the little ones, or not so little ones, have with you. Sometimes they come to you not only because they are curious, but they want you to know that certain issues are present in their lives, and that they need help. Do not just try to answer, but try to discover why the interest in the topic.
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