You might be surprised to find out that you are making these five destructive mistakes that will end up ruining your relationship with your husband.
When I got married, I was struck by the overwhelming and instant sense of responsibility I felt for loving and caring for my husband. Suddenly a large part of someone else’s well-being and happiness would have a lot to do with my decisions and actions.
Women need to be careful about how we care for our husbands and marriages. Do not allow small details to ruin the things that will bring you the greatest happiness in life.
These are just a few ways you could be destroying your husband and ending your marriage (as a warning, please understand that although this article is directed at women, it applies to men as well):
1. Spend more than you have
A wise woman in my church once advised me, “The best thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband’s means.”
Wives show true appreciation and respect for their husband by carefully following a budget and making the most of what they have. Be smart about your finances.
Constantly complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish wishes, or having astronomical credit card debt is a poor way of saying “thank you” to a faithful husband who works hard to provide for his family.
Yes, you may not have enough to buy the Kate Spade bag you’ve been wanting for months, but your husband will love it and appreciate the fact that you honor him and are grateful for what he provides.
2. Constant negativity
You hate your hair, the mess at home, the neighbors across the street, your clumsy co-worker, the old washing machine, and everything else that comes your way. As soon as your husband walks through the door, you jump into action and dump every annoying negative thought that crosses your mind throughout the day.
Can you imagine having that burden? Negativity exhausts. Men like to fix things; Being constantly harassed with complaints makes it difficult for him to solve your problems.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned from marriage, it’s that a good man wants you to be happy, and if he can’t help you be happy, he’ll be unhappy. It’s okay to have a bad day every now and then, understandably, but don’t make it a way of life.
3. Have other priorities
When your kids, your mom, your best friends, your talents or career are ahead of your husband, you send him a clear message that he is not important. Imagine receiving that message from you every day for many years. What would happen to your self-esteem?
Give your husband first place.
Contradictory as it may seem, I think you would be surprised to find that this is often the key to great happiness in marriage. This is why many couples are getting divorced today, because they neglect to care for and love one another and as individuals put themselves first.
If you decide to prioritize your partner, you will find a lot of happiness.
4. Deny physical affection
Men implore and need physical affection with their wives. Consistently rejecting intimacy wears them down.
Sex should not be used as a form of control over your partner; it should be seen as a sacred tool to bring them closer to each other and to God.
To be loved and needed by a loving and romantic husband who wants to share something so important and beautiful with you – and only with you, is a very great blessing. Although it may be that you do not always have desires, it is worth giving up (when you can) and enjoying moments of togetherness.
5. Not speaking their language
We women love to make advances (I think it’s part of our DNA). Don’t waste time leaving clues they won’t understand: Speak up to them. Be honest about your feelings, and don’t hold back until you explode. If he asks you what is going on, don’t answer, “Nothing,” and then expect him to read your mind and your emotions. Be open about what you really feel.
_Translated and adapted by Myrna del Carmen Flores from: 5 ways you are unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage by Katelyn Carmen