The best teachings are those learned after the biggest mistakes. I invite you to discover 4 tools that will help you have a more balanced and happy life.
The best lessons are those that are learned after the biggest mistakes, and in that respect I am more than an expert. Some people tend to misjudge those of us who study psychology, because they consider that because we have studied that profession we are balanced people, that we lead perfect lives and that we have a superb capacity to control our feelings and emotions; In other words, the worst tragedies can happen to us and nothing will take us out of our own control. What a huge mistake!
Opening my soul
Between those of us who study psychology and those of us who don’t, there is no difference. We have all had to go through our own Gethsemane and from somewhere our emotions falter. Personally, I find it difficult to forget an offense; As if that were not enough, I torture myself day and night remembering the event and I spend as much rage as possible, and that does not stop until I feel alone somewhere and I say to myself: “It was enough punishment!”
Things can get worse, as I not only “gloat” in my injuries, but I also plan revenge that I never carry out and that only serve to harm me even more, physically and emotionally. But something that I know that I can do wonderfully is to offend people verbally, and that’s what I resort to most of the time; I’m not going to lie to you, on many occasions I regret it, but on other occasions I don’t, and I don’t have an iota of remorse left.
Relee: Sometimes you also need your own Gethsemane.
My career has helped me to know myself, otherwise it would be impossible that I was confessing here my most horrible demons. Despite the aforementioned, throughout my adult life I have learned some things that have helped me to be a better person, since there is no point in harming myself and much less harming others, and that I want to share with you with the intention that learn from my mistakes:
1. You do not have to be you for you
There is a saying that arguing with closed and stubborn people is putting yourself on their level, and that because of their experience on the subject they will win you over. I admit that is a pretty strong saying, but it is real. There are people who will want to unload their frustrations on you and they will achieve it if you put yourself at their level, achieving what they were looking for: getting upset and emptying their bitterness on you, even if you were not the source of their discomfort.
The best thing you can do in this situation is not go along with them; If the person insists on making you uncomfortable, just walk away and don’t feed the fire of their anger, because you are going to get out badly or hurt. Get out of her sight and talk to her when you notice that she is no longer upset, at that moment you will discover two things: 1. He is just an angry person who may not even know what she was saying, and 2. If.
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2. It takes two to fight
I learned this from my younger sister: you have nothing to gain from fighting someone who has offended you. Something that will quench the source of their anger will be your immediate silence. It may be possible that she continues to harass you and that you burst with unanswered desires, but hold on! There is a good chance that she will not continue doing it, since by not having the answer you are looking for, she will have no choice but to control herself and screw herself up.
3. Do you want to get sick? Accumulate resentment and let yourself be infected by anger
Any alteration of mood affects the organism and those that will suffer will be your organs as they develop, due to the effects of accumulated anger and stress, nerve ulcers and an irritated colon; This can be corroborated by any doctor.
Relee: We must express what we feel, but also what we think.
4. Positive thoughts will improve your mood
The best thing you can do to get back at someone who has hurt you is to wish that they do very well in their life. I know how this sounds, but it is true, forgiveness, rather than benefiting another, is a favor that you do yourself; Therefore, focus on being happy, on not letting them harm you and not harm your loved ones through you. If someone has insulted you or does not feel good about you, wish them to do excellent, since it is what they need the most because the ruin they are putting on is more than enough to be unhappy the rest of their days.
You have come to this world to be happy and happiness is something that is contagious and that no one can take away from you if you do not allow it; So don’t do it and strive to be a better person every day for yourself and those around you.